Are you over the hill?

I wonder how many times a day we tell ourselves we’re over the hill or perhaps we believe we are too old to change or try something new or even learn to change.😁It’s easy to look at the younger generation, no matter how old we are, and believe they’ve got all of the advantages somehow.😢I’ve even fallen into this trap …

It’s okay to feel afraid

Part of self-discovery is sitting with ourselves and acknowledging our fears. Not running from them or trying to wish them away but literally saying, “I’m not wrong or a failure for being afraid. These fears are perfectly natural. It’s okay to feel how I feel.”Something about this process creates a safe space to feel, acknowledge and allow the fear to be …

‘Decoration Day’ Memories

What are your memories and holiday traditions for Memorial Day? I grew up calling it Decoration Day.For as long as I can recall, on this day our family has decorated graves at the cemetery, gathered for a family photo and then enjoyed a picnic at a local park (nowadays we go out to eat). I have photographs of each and every …

Sharing Self-Discovery

Video #1 Do you know what to do? Video #2 How to get out of your own way! Video #3 The power of perseverance! Video #4 Highly afraid to fail? Video #5 Do you ever share your feelings in a vulnerable way? Video #6 Do you have a desire to help and teach others? Video #7 Greedy gremlins getting in …

A Tribute to Mother

Eyes of clear blue and ivory smooth skin,  She gave love from deep within. Held and rocked from infancy, She shared her love of books with me. Despite her childhood being one of heartache and pain, Ne’er did her devotion as a mother feign. In search of fame and worldly security, Her own mother walked out on the family, Determined …

We are mountains

We’ve all encountered darkness we feared could destroy us. Thankfully we survive to tell the story (in most cases) of how we conquered it instead. If you’re currently in the middle of darkness, you’re not alone. Many have walked or are now on the path of pain. Eventually the light does come, usually in the most unexpected ways. Walk toward …

We are not one dimensional

  This week has been a roller coaster for me. Started out on a high, quickly descending into a day of sadness on Wednesday where I couldn’t stop crying ? There were several ‘reasons’ but what’s important is that I gave myself permission to feel sad. I used to avoid feeling sadness at all costs. I was so afraid of …

Protecting Ourselves from Perceived Harm

  Part of learning more about our personal story is realizing how we use defensiveness to protect ourselves. I’ve certainly done this. I’ve seen the worst in others while expecting them to see the best in me. I’ve lashed out when I needed love in return but was too afraid to ask for it. I’ve looked strong and fearless when …

Responding to Disappointment

How do you typically respond when life disappoints you? Most of us have a learned response or knee jerk reaction when faced with major disappointment. These are the most common: 1- Emotional withdrawal or shutting down. “Why can’t I have a better life? I must protect myself. I can’t let others see my pain and weakness.” 2- Anger, lashing out …

Relationships

  Relationships offer us the greatest opportunity for personal growth and expansion . I’m pictured here with my amazing five adult children ? As I witness them growing and experiencing individual paths in life, I’m very aware of how our interactions have shifted from when they were young children to how we relate now as adults. In some ways the …